“Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.” – Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10
It’s true that two should be better than one. What happens when one is better than two?
We all desire the perfect family.
A family where everything works, where there’s love and mutual respect amongst all family members. You have imagined your kids being raised in an environment that will help them to mature and develop into responsible, kind and loving people.
But what do you do when all your dreams and aspirations for a perfect home don’t seem to be coming together? What happens in situations where the idea you had for your kids aren’t just happening.
“Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding.” – Albert Einstein
I once wrote a series on Abuse and this series spells out the difference between discipline, correction and plain abuse on the kids. When a home has failed to nurture a child in the way they ought to be nurtured, and has instead turned out to be a place of pain, aches and ‘torture’, something need to be done.
A home should be a place of comfort and succor from the troubles of this world.
What do you do when your home is not the place of joy, comfort and hope for your kids? What do you do when your ‘ought to be’ better half is making your life and that of your child(ren) a Living Hell?
My idea with this post is not to offer solutions because I actually do not feel qualified to offer any! My aim is to ask questions – questions from anyone who has gone through and will love to offer a word of encouragement to those who are still hurting.
What exactly does one do when One may seem better than two?
Sometimes you need to run for your dear life when violence is involved. Even when violence is not involved, what about the emotional trauma some are subjected to?
You should never feel a need to allow yourself to be damaged just to remain in a place where death is the end result. Your life is more important than what anyone thinks or what people may say. Only the living can tell the story.
If you feel compelled to stay for the kids, don’t forget that you need to be alive and well to take care of your kids.
What choice will you make?
NB: I started writing this post in February 2015, I just couldn’t finish it – I was just at a loss, pondering on the issue of Abuse.
If you ever feel a need to speak to someone about your situation of abuse, kindly send an email to email@example.com and we’d be glad to listen to you and help you through.
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